I’ve noticed a trend going around the internet, lots of people (myself included!) are blogging about ‘gentleness’ or ‘gentle accountability’. I’ve been pondering the difference between being gentle with you and just letting yourself off the hook easily.
What does ‘gentleness’ mean?
I’m an unapologetic English major. I loved the work I did for my degree and I find myself thinking about what I learned. I firmly believe that words have meaning and should be used carefully. (Note: I hate corporate-speak because it’s overused and have become meaningless. Also, not everything needs a hashtag!)
For my clients, I define gentleness as this: it’s respecting your feelings, acknowledging that it’s okay to feel, especially negative emotions, and not berating yourself. It’s about taking a hard look in the mirror, figuring out why there’s a block between where you are and what you want, and how you can get through it.
Gentleness is not saying, “I just can’t do that.” Or “I wasn’t made to be a “. It is acknowledging that things may not be ideal and you may not be where you wish to be but you’re going to try hard to make the best out of a bad situation.
Letting yourself off the hook is really about avoiding responsibility we have to honor our goals, talents and dreams. I think it is possible to get what you want, you just may have to shift and change the path to get there.
Need a guide to get you there? I can help you with that!